But would you recommend Slimming World?

it’s, it’s worked for me, so I have to recommend it, you know, and I mean, I know we have, I think it makes a big difference actually who the leader is and we’re very lucky in that I mean she’s completely mad but I mean she’s, because she’s so like the rest of us, her thoughts are very like the rest of us. Like, she’s done the, which, you know, a lot of us have done, gone shopping, bought a packet of biscuits and by the time you’ve got home, you’ve eaten the packet in the car. You know, she’s done all that sort of thing and, and, you know, so she’s, she’s very much in, in line with everybody else’s thinking. So she, she never, sort of like if somebody says, Oh God I ate six bars of chocolate at the weekend She’ll come back with a story, Oh yeah she said, yeah, I’ve done that. I remember exactly when I did this And so she’s, she’s not kind of judging you. I don’t, I think, I think our group and I don’t know, I’ve not experienced any of the other groups round here but certainly our group, nobody judges you. Everybody is there to support you and help you. You can have as much help as you want or as little, if, you know, if you’re comfortable with doing it on your own because some ladies they just, because they’d never dieted before, they just come along and they just lose the weight. I mean it, it is phenomenal.

Well I suppose it’s like any educational experience really. You, you want a good teacher at the front of the classroom and the one that I went to last year, she, she was a lot younger than me, but she, she loved cooking, so she was full of ideas, full of recipes and very positive about everything and she wouldn’t entertain too much negativity. She moved the things on quickly and you’ve got to feel that that person is I think really on your side. The only downside to it I would say is because she was a good leader, her group was massive. So, for her to go round every person, every week and ask us in a group how we’d done etc., you know, it was getting really late when we were finishing. I think there should be a maximum size of group really for it, of course it’s a commercial enterprise so
Okay, so, how, how big was your group?

I would say between 30 and 50 people. Yes, yeah it was that good.

Okay and she was running just one group or within that area?

She, she ran three groups. One in the morning, one in the early evening and then the evening one that I went to after work.

Okay. So, if you would like to, I think this is, this is very important so if you based on your experience, if you need, if they ask for your advice kind of what group, what group size would be good, the qualities of a leader. What would be, if you had to recommend something?

Well I would say definitely no more than thirty people. I mean, probably twenty’s ideal but commercially that’s probably not viable because of all the cost involved but they only, I think they mainly recruit from people who have lost weight with them. So in theory, the people have got that knowledge and enthusiasm but she’s gone on to be, she’s dropped two of her classes now and she’s like an area manager. So clearly, she did stand out, just enthusiastic and interested in cooking because at the basis of Slimming World and Weight Watchers really is healthy eating and just, just a good healthy diet and that involves putting time and effort into cooking and lots of people don’t cook. Lots of people don’t cook. I have always enjoyed cooking but lots of people don’t know the first thing about cooking and they need some help to and they need it from people who are doing it and are, you know. She was very good at identifying new products that had come onto the market, not, not Slimming World ones, just new things like squash being used as lasagne sheets and things like that. So, she was really on the ball all the time every week.

So, then I decided to, to join Slimming World. Slimming World were very good. I learnt an awful lot from Slimming World. But what happened with Slimming World you, I forget what I paid at the time but let’s say it was something like £10 to join and £3 each visit you made and I found that after several, well several, couple of months or something like that, you were going there on a Monday night and you were paying £3 just to be weighed because you’d heard all the stuff before. Each Monday there were new people coming to join the club and the, the, the tutor said, Well, you need to do a, b, c,d and you’d heard it all before and I was as I say, paying £3 just to be weighed and I thought, No, no I’m not going to, this is ridiculous just to get weighed.

So I stopped going and that really was a mistake because by going every week it was keeping me watching me weight. Once I stopped going then my weight blossomed again, I started putting weight on and again I tried myself to try and cut it back but I just didn’t seem to have the willpower to do it and then I developed angina, pains in the chest.

You said that you learned, what did you learn from Slimming World?

Slimming World was the fact that with the other students, you sort of learnt how they were going on, how were they combating how to sort of cut down on the wrong sorts of food and when they were tempted how they overcome this sort of temptation. That was one example going to a party and sort of doing it that way and I think generally just watching what you ate and you ate the correct food, it, it was, I wasn’t a porridge man for instance and suddenly started eating my and enjoying porridge.

So why did it come about?

Linda: Right, well the doctor or the diabetic nurse actually said that it would be good if you could lose some weight, so I thought, Well having heard from other people that Slimming World was a very easy way of doing it to be honest. They give you so much information and you can eat loads but you’ve got to do it in the right way and so I took myself off to the classes. I did the classes. Jim didn’t come with me because, well he wasn’t, he wasn’t really into that sort of thing and it’s mostly, well I was going to say it’s mostly women. There are men there, but you need to be quite brave if you’re going to sit with twenty women.

[Laughs]

Jim: Well you wouldn’t get a word in for a start.

Linda: Anyway, the – so I went, and I spoke to the lady and I explained why I was there and she said, well, you, you will have to obviously have a target yourself, so she gave me half a stone target, so that I could actually go and be part of the sessions. We, every week they tell you, they give you recipe for something different and you can either do them or not. There’s lots of books. You can do it in different ways.

So did you read the literature that your wife brought home from Slimming World? Did you read it? Did you talk to her?

Jim: No, no she, she generally came home and told me what had happened to her down there and she’d give me the stories and that would be quite, would be quite interesting.

Linda: You did look at it. You did look at it.

Jim: Yeah, I do understand the, sort of the, the main issues. I didn’t go myself because I thought it was a girly thing and, you know, I’d be the only man there and
Linda: But in some places it is. But in other places, our daughter-law goes in [county] and it’s half and half men and women and it depends what time of the day it is, doesn’t it because the men are more likely to be at work and that sort of thing.

Jim: Yes but probably unlike quite a lot of other people, we are a double act and you, you were going to do this and we were going to do it together, so there was no point me
Linda: No, no.

Jim: aying, well not that we mind the money particularly.

Linda: No, you don’t pay after a while.

Jim: There isn’t an issue with that. But, you know, it was sensible that she went and got the gen and we did it, you know.

Okay.

Linda: And the other good thing of course is if you reach the – they give you these goals, once you do it, you stop paying and providing you keep three pounds either way, they still do it in pounds, pounds and stones. Providing you keep three pounds either way, you don’t pay, so that’s an incentive to people not to have to pay it.

Yeah. I’ve done, I did Weight Watchers years ago. For me, it didn’t work. I just found it, it was counting calories and things and I found it too muddling for me, too hard. The Slimming World was better and I just went for a short while and that was when I was a lot better.

Why was the Slimming World better?

I think because it was more, it wasn’t so regimented. It wasn’t like a portion of this, it was much more easy to follow. And you could eat more of what you wanted but just smaller amounts of it all, if you had, then you don’t have that, and, it sounds silly saying it because in my head I know this, but it’s so why don’t I do it. I don’t know. it’s.

Is it the one that you are weighed in front of other people. In a group?

Yeah and I found that very hard so, yeah, yeah.

What, hard in which in which sense?

Because, because it showed me how big I was, how much I did weigh so it was like, well, there’s no way I can lose all that. it’s too, it was too big an amount too big a mountain to climb for me. And other people were saying, Oh, I’ve got to lose five pounds And there’s me thinking, I’ve got to lose, you know, however many stones and it’s just like, [sighs] I’ll never manage to do that. So.

Okay. So it was it was, you found that the task was too much.

It was too much, yeah. It was too overwhelming for me.

So 9 out of 10 times I go but I don’t stay. So I just go in, weigh in and come out. So I’m not getting the whole what they call image therapy where you talk about things. But I just find it, and again my friend we just found it so, a bit depressing because you’re just listening, you know, you’re listening to people that have said, I’ve eaten chocolate this week and I’ve lost three pounds You know, you’ve stuck to the plan and put on a pound and you’re thinking, You don’t need to hear… because in your head you’re thinking, Well why’s that happened?’ it’s just the negativity and how, I think how a person works, their mind is, you want a result,’ because my husband can never understand why I get so upset about results on the scales every week. He says, but it doesn’t matter I said, No, it doesn’t matter to you, but I’ve worked hard

Okay and when, how do you feel on those occasions that you are kind of dieting or doing things that Weight Watchers or Slimming World is telling you to do and you are not losing the weight, the weight, how do you feel, sort of from week to week?

Quite disillusioned actually because you sort of think, and I think that’s the trouble with some, some of the classes because you think, I’ve done it. I’ve been on it a hundred per cent. I know I’ve been good and I’m the first to admit when I’ve done something wrong but when you know you’ve been good and then you get on the scales and they tell you and if, I’ve printed my story off for you actually, it will tell you in there how I have felt. Like I think there was one week I went to a different class because of circumstances and I’d put on two pound and that was over an Easter period. I’d had no Easter eggs, no hot cross buns or anything nice and I came out of there feeling so disillusioned because you think, Why There’s nobody can answer and your consultant, like you say hasn’t got the time or the time, but you feel really down.

Whereas I stuck with it and then the next week I lost three pound and it was just sort of balanced it out but if you don’t get that it can send you in to complete despair because I think, What, what shall I do?’ And even with this [name group] that I went to, I was losing half a pound. I went for a whole month where I only lost half a pound a week but because I was losing I kept going with it and then every now and again, I’d get a big weight loss and I think that’s how my body is. But again, you don’t get told that, you don’t get told, Some weeks you could stay the same for three or four weeks and then get a big weight loss. Some weeks you could, you know, do the right thing and gain You don’t really get any of that explained to you because they don’t want that negativity. I think that’s the thing. They don’t want to say, Some weeks this is going to happen

Whereas I think if they were honest from the beginning you’re prepared for it. But you’re not, when you think, I’ve done it for hundred, I’ve been on it a hundred per cent and I’ve managed to lose two, I’ve gained two pound. Why?’ And that’s when you can get on a real and there’s girls on there, there was a girl this week who’s lost six stone and she gained this week and she was ready to give up just after that even though she’d lost six stone because she’s got no rhyme or reason or why because our bodies are weird. Because my husband did a thing. He weighed him every day for a week and he said the difference in what you’ve eaten the day before to what your scales weigh the next morning. But he said, but nobody tells you that at Slimming club do they So he said, That particular morning you’ve got on those scales and weighed two pound could be because of something you did the day before and I went, Yeah, but nobody explains that to you You don’t, and you don’t want to hear that at the time but, yeah. Yeah, it is, it is hard, very hard.

I’ve never sought any support and I’ve never got any support. I’m not sure, I mean apart from going to slimming groups which they’re not always that supportive when you say that you’ve really gone at everything you should have done and you haven’t lost any weight or you’ve only lost half a pound, they lose interest. They’d rather talk to the person who’s lost four pounds that week than the person who’s tried really hard and not lost anything because there’s nothing they can do and there’s nothing they can suggest.

I was losing half a pound, where everybody else was losing two or three and still, you know, they’d come to the class and say, Oh, I was so naughty this week. I ate this, and I ate that, and I went out to eat and the thing, and I’ve lost four pounds. And I would say, Well, I haven’t eaten all that. I’ve just had proper food. I haven’t had any potato. I haven’t had this. I haven’t had sweets. I’ve lost half a pound And, you know, they’d lose interest in you because, well, that’s not so exciting is it. So I don’t find them especially helpful. they’re only helpful in what I can get out of them not what they give me. it’s what I take from it. They don’t give me anything except, you know, for me it’s, it’s it helps my discipline but I haven’t had any support really, no.

I think having sort of someone to talk to about what I’ve eaten and how I’ve felt or whatever would be perhaps a way forward. I don’t always, I don’t always find the group help, it only goes so far because I mean my problems are different from the next persons and, which are different from the other persons, so there’s not time to go into, into depth about what you’re eating and why you’re eating it or, or whether I would be better to eat something else because, but you’ve also got to take into account what you like and enjoy. I’m not one for eating things because they’re, because they’re healthy and I don’t like them. You know, I like to, I enjoy my food so I like.

But, you see, I’ve cut out things like gravy’s and I look on ingredients all the time to see what’s in food.

Okay, so you would like sort of a one to one with someone who can give you, tailor more,
Yes, yes, yes..

…tailor made advice.

.and perhaps be somebody who knows about nutrition, knows about health. Knows about my conditions, my diabetes and recognises my need for low carbohydrate and, you see, when I went to Slimming World, the advice they gave to diabetics as well, just eat the, the non carbohydrate foods, but there was nothing to show you how to make something different or nice with, without carbohydrate. You know, there was no, I didn’t find any recipes that were specifically without carbohydrate.

Okay so any other kind of downs from this or things that these programmes should improve. You don’t need to mention any programme in particular but I mean ideally what would be a good programme, a good diet?

I don’t think, what a good, the best diet I think if you treated people as individual not as the group, you know, that is just the thing because I will compare myself with other people. I mean the last time I went to Weight Watchers nearly coming up to a year ago, I remember talking to somebody and they were saying, Okay, well you’ve done that now. So you draw a line under it and you just carry on, yeah, because that’s what I would do I think, Well, I’m not you. I’m not you. And, you know, a lot of the time I think, Okay, because I’m from an Asian background, I will go home and make curries and okay they’ll be fat free and whatever, but they are tasty. Now what a native English person might eat won’t be spicy or garlicky. They will, they’re happy with steak and jacket potato and whatever. I wouldn’t find that satisfying, you know, we’re all different people. So I’d say a bit more personalised approach but that’s not going to be possible for these commercial programmes.

Why?

Because it’s just so much investment. Imagine the amount the client would have to pay to get that service. Actually, may be that would work [laughs] that would work, you know.

What would they need to have in order to provide that individual kind of service if you want?

I think exactly what you’re doing today, asking me my history, you know, they want, you need to know what, what’s gone on before and why they haven’t worked, why the programmes haven’t worked and what are the things that trigger me off, you know. It could be the slightest thing, it could be the biggest thing, you know, if for example, my son moved out a year ago but when, you know, if you’re living in a family, you’re catering for everybody else, it is not practical to make different meals for different people.

So, yeah, and the social aspect as well. If you’ve got a good social life, you know, you’re going out a couple of times a week, you know, how do you manage that?

But you went to an introduction by

Yeah, I thought they were just out to get my money and I wasn’t impressed and then you have to kind of keep waiting around and, you know, you could be doing other things with your time that’s more industrious and product-, you know, more interesting things. I wasn’t, it didn’t impress me at all. Maybe it wasn’t as professionally done as it could have been. I suppose it’s different in different places but I wasn’t impressed.

So, I’d like to think that there’s some kind of system where people can get information on losing weight and, and one thing that I will say is that I did go to something, I’ve forgotten what it’s called. It was run by, it was given by a young guy who was a trainer, who’d been a gym trainer and completely the wrong type of person to give advice on weight, loss of weight.

Why?

Because he didn’t angle it towards being 1) a female; 2) older and 3) it was all very patronisingly put.

What do you mean? Talking down?

It was the way that it came over expecting us to do this and people to understand that and so on and being dismissive of some people’s questions and so on and I didn’t like it. I didn’t like it at all. So, I didn’t continue and he particularly kind of talked to, mainly focused on the young people in the group because he was a young person and that was wrong. Do you understand what I mean?

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Very clearly, yeah.

He didn’t have empathy. He didn’t have the right empathy. It was almost as though he was just doing the job and anyway
This was run by, by, which programme was this?

It was a private company and I can’t remember what the name of it was.

Have you tried to find if there is any specific like, I don’t know, weight management programme within sort of your local area?

Yeah, yeah, again I’ve looked on the internet and there’s, for, so I’ve looked and, you know, but you have to pay for it.

Okay.

And I can’t afford. it’s, you know, yes, you can, you know, I read this thing and it was just like, yes, that’s what I need, that’s what I need and then it’s like, you know, hundreds of pounds and when you’re on benefits because you can’t work because of everything then you just can’t.

Can you be referred by your GP to?

No.

To them?

No, they wouldn’t, it’s, no, you’d have to be, you have to pay, it’s a private sort of thing. it’s.

But I mean some of these programmes sometimes they have an agreement in which NHS patients could be referred to them.

Oh okay.

Have you asked?

So what.

Your GP for it?

No.

If there is any programme they could refer you to?

No, I’ll do that when I go next.

Okay.

I’ll make I’ll make an appointment, when you’ve gone, and do that [laughs].