Here we talk about people’s expectations and worries about having sex for the first time. You can also hear people’s stories about the first time they had sex and their age and reasons for having sex the first time.
Both men and women worry about sexual performance, but guys are more concerned about ‘doing it right’, and girls are more worried about their bodies.
There is pressure from friends, to be sexually active and knowledgeable, and to brag about sex, so men find it hard to admit if they don’t know much about sex. Most men worry about their performance the first time they have sex, although most girls don’t feel this pressure.
Explains that teenage males find it very difficult to talk about sex and describes a conversation…
Describes the concerns he had at the time of his first sexual experience.
Talks about how he felt the first time he had sex and how guys are concerned with their…
A couple talk about their first sexual experiences regarding the feelings and pressures involved.
Even though teenage girls are less likely to ‘brag’ about their sexual performance, other forms of competition took place, for example who knew more about sex, who had already done it, or had an older boyfriend.
As one woman we spoke to explained “With my first boyfriend the most important thing was that he was older and he was good-looking and that I would have sex and then I’d be able to talk to about it with my friends. Sort of far more Brownie points if they were older”.
Girls may also lie about sex in order not to seem ‘frigid’ or inexperienced.
Talks about lying to her friends regarding a fictitious ‘snog. (Actor)
Like guys, most girls said that they felt scared and nervous the first time they had sex. They’re not under pressure to perform, but some still feel they should. Body image (the way people feel about the way their body looks) was more of an issue for the girls we spoke to – one said she wouldn’t eat for 8 hours before sex so that her tummy didn’t look big.
Indicates that teenage boys and girls experience anxieties and concerns about performance and…
Explains that boys feel more under pressure to perform well.
Describes how important sexual performance was to her as a teenager. (Actor)
Explains that her and her friends concerns and anxieties had to do with body image rather than…
Another girl told us ‘you’re supposed to be having sex like a film star all the time, like a porn star’. Many found talking to their mates set their mind at rest.
Explains how media depiction of sex makes you think that it has to be amazing every time you do…
Some of the young men and women we interviewed felt more sexually confident the better they knew someone, and some believed being with one partner rather than lots of different people helped.