I remember being at my mother-laws and them giving a toast to kind of 2008 because they’d had quite a rough 2007, saying, Well things can’t be worse in 2008 And the thoughts were going through my mind was, Oh my gosh, I’ve got cancer. I know I haven’t told them you know. I’ve got, you know, hows this going to happen

And then obviously I went for the colposcopy on 2nd January. And Mr. the consultant whos name’s [doctor’s name], he was brilliant. He drew me a picture of what was happening. He asked me if I knew why I was there and I said, Well I’ve got severe pre-cancerous cells And he said, No He said, it’s worse than that He said, We think you have cancer

I felt bad that I’d hidden it from them. I felt bad that I’d not told them before Christmas. And I think they were a little kind of angry as well that I hadn’t. But also glad at the same time that I hadn’t as well. It was quite a mixture of feelings I’d say. And then I got a phone call within a fortnight from [hospital name], and they said that, they said, I can’t believe it, I’m so relieved to tell you that it is pre-cancer, not cancer He said, You he just said that he was amazed. He said, Bu he said, The cells are of the glandular type also. So we would like to see you within the clinic again within six months, where they will take some more biopsies and check everything is okay

So when you got the letter, you told your mum and you told your sister. And that’s when you heard from your sister that actually she had been

Yeah, she was like, Oh nothing to worry about, been for loads of them. What are you moaning about

Did that make you feel better?

It did, it did. Like I say, the more I spoke to people, cos I’m very much a very open person anyway. I have to talk to get through things. I’m very, I don’t know, but I also need, but I have to talk to people. That’s the way I cope with stuff, so I spoke to everybody that I met about it really. Everybody I spoke to at some point had been, Yeah, I’ve been for one of them, I’ve been for a colposcopy

I rang my Dad and, at the time when I rang, I rang my boyfriend as soon as I found out, when I came out. And I told him over the phone that I’d been diagnosed with cancer. Because he’s very, very much a strong person, and his dad’s very poorly and his dad’s got cancer himself. So he’s sort of got broad shoulders, bless him.

So I told him and then I can remember ringing my dad and my sister, and I sort of said everything’s fine because obviously I didn’t want to tell them over the phone. So I told them that it was fine. And then I went to see my sister, when she got home from work, and told her. And then I went to tell my dad, which was horrible telling them. But the worst person was telling my mum when she got back off holiday. That was the most difficult thing at the time.

Such a hard thing to have to tell them isn’t it?

Yeah, it was horrid. It was, I think my sister just, oh she just started bawling. And you have to be strong, you have to be strong for them, you know. Its very odd. You try and be strong for them and, like I say, I don’t know whether I was just naive at the time but just, well not naïve, just matter of fact and I’d been diagnosed and I was having treatment and that was that.

You mentioned that when you found out, obviously you told your husband?

Yeah.

Then you told your mum?

Yeah.

And you knew your sister in law had had CIN3 before. So did you tell the whole family? And you mentioned you hadn’t told friends. How did you feel about telling people? And what to tell them?

Yeah. I told all of my family, like only my close family, like my brothers, my mum, my dad and my sister in law. But I didn’t tell – I just told another friend, who actually then, as you said, she told me she also had it. So it helped, you know, to discuss it and she had only CIN, CIN3 she didn’t have both [CIN3 and CGIN]. But she had it ages ago and she’s now fine. So in a way that was good. And also she told me what to do and not to do, because she had, she was much younger but she partied the day after or something and then was really in pain for two weeks. Whereas I rested and so I guess that kind of, that helped, not to go crazy.

But the other friends, I didn’t want to tell because I didn’t want them to look at me like I was ill. And I didn’t because when you say the cancer’ word, everyone kind of assumes you’re going to die within the next six months or something. And I didn’t want people to look at me differently. I didn’t want to feel that people had pity for me sort of. I just said to some of them that I had a little polyp to be removed but that its.

I kind of had become like a mini go-to girl at the minute for all of my friends, and all of their friends at work who are kind of getting it [CIN]. So one of my friends at work who I e-mailed the other day, and she was like, A girl in my office has just been diagnosed with severe dysplasia. Can you talk to her I was like, Yes, I think so

And she was like, she had that same kind of, she’d just found out, that initial panic. And I was like, I’ve just had my surgery, don’t worry. Honestly, they’ll get you in and out really quickly, and they’ll fix it And I was like, I know it’s really scary andrdquo;

And one of my other friends as well, who lives in Cheltenham, she’s had it as well. She was kind of more my go-to girl. She was like, You’ll be fine Because she didn’t have it with general anaesthetic, she had it under local and so she was kind of telling me about the smoking loins, about how you see all kinds of smoke, which is a bit weird.

And then I did have a friend in Manchester, who got an infection after her treatment, and so she was really quite ill in hospital. So that was quite scary as well. But one of my housemate’s friends at work, she spoke to me as well because she’d just been diagnosed. She’s a bit older, though. She’s about 30.

And so I think as soon as people find out you’ve had it, it turns out that actually, and even just like my housemates going for a smear test because they’re like, well one of my housemates, she’s a year older than me, she’s 26 and she was kind of like, Oh God, I don’t want to go for my smear test And I was kind of like You have to go for your smear test, okay. it’s the best thing you can do And so yeah, it has become a massive topic of conversation recently.

I don’t really recall telling that many people about it. But obviously I told my mum, who was extremely worried. I probably tell more people now than I did at the time, just because I think if I voiced it too much it would have made it too real. So I just kind of kept it to myself and my immediate family.

And I think by telling people it made it too big, you know. It was one of those things where if I just keep it with us, it’s just small and manageable. So yeah. I just, you know, it was just sort of close family that were really in the know. Had the results come back, you know, that the cells were cancerous, I might then have voiced it. But until that happened I was just like, Lets just keep it low key

Did you come across any other women whod had it before?

No. Actually, nobody I know. I did sort of, you know, you get the odd, oh the friend of a friend of a friend. But I didn’t actually know anyone directly whod had it.

It’s something that’s so personal. I haven’t spoken to anyone about it, not even my family, not even close friends. Some people are very judgemental about this type of thing and the more I found out, the more information there has been that it’s related to the HPV virus, so some people are quite judgmental about that. So it really feels like something I can’t talk to anyone about.

What was more difficult was to tell my parents because, with all the advertising for the vaccine for the HPV vaccine, which I think is amazing. it’s really good now and I would recommend everyone to take it. There’d been much more awareness about how you can get cervical cancer from a virus, which is caught sexually. And so therefore some members of my family said, well it’s a sexually transmitted disease and you’ve brought it on yourself, sort of attitude, which I found very difficult toto bear with, because I’m not a promiscuous person. And I found that really upsetting actually. And that was difficult and also then to tell people at work because of course I work in the medical profession and I work just with men because of my job.

And actually you worry that you’ll get the reaction from them that this is a sexually transmitted disease. And it’s almost as bad as telling somebody you’ve got HIV, and it’s not the same. You know, I found that attitude, although the awareness is much better, there’s become this much more of a stigma attached to it. So that was quite, that was the worst experience I think about having this whole thing, was people’s reaction to it.

I actually even told my mother, you can look it up. And advised them to look up Jos Cervical Cancer Trust, because the family member that I was tellingI come from, you know, quite a religious family and they have very fixed viewpoints.

I didn’t expect that reaction from them, though. It wasn’t supportive and it was very upsetting. And when you’re telling somebody news like, you need people to be supportive. And you need people to be caring because, at the end of the day, it doesn’t matter how you’ve got it, and it’s very common.

Perhaps I shouldn’t, but I’m going to go to Jade Goody. And it’s like when you tell people, unless you say, I mean if you say to them that you’ve got CIN 1 or CIN 2 or CIN 3, they’re like, What you talking about

If you say to them, I’ve got cancer they’ll know. So all the time I’m telling abnormal smear, CIN 1. Yeah I could talk to them and tell them I was worried. But I’d always get, don’t worry, don’t panic Because only because of their ignorance as well.

As I say, it was just like, well you haven’t got cancer, you know. it’s only, you know.
They were sympathetic in as far as if I wanted to talk. I was worried they wouldn’t listen. But at the end of it, it was all like, you know, You’ll be alright, it’ll be fine