At the very beginning, he [brother] had an eye infection. I always start with this part of the story that he had this terrible eye infection, and they could not cure it. So they kept, you know, a month and then another month, and another month and then finally his kidneys went.

Oh excuse me, the eye infection cleared up and three days later he was in the hospital. I went to visit him and he was yellow. His skin colour was yellow, his eyes were yellow. Everything was yellow. I thought, Oh my Lord, what’s happening

So with that they found out that he needed dialysis. And he was on dialysis for five years, and it doesn’t work really well with him.

I’m one of four children and that particular brother and I had the same blood type. So therefore that would be the easiest. The others

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Basically, my daughter was in and out of hospital for various things related to her kidney problems and she had to go on dialysis, which I didn’t know much about at the time. I didn’t know anything to be honest.

But her mum approached me and I said yes, we’ll have to do something now because it’s getting really potentially life threatening, basically. So we contacted the hospitals. I can’t really remember that because it was a couple of years ago now. it’s taken about two years to finally get to this stage.

They [GP] referred him [father] onto a nephrologist initially. But what happened is, each time he used to go and have his checks – blood tests and 24 hour urine analysis – he used to find his Creatinine and his kidney function level used to be diminished each time. Eventually, it plateaued at just 30%. That was both kidneys together. The combined function was 30%.

Then the nephrologist [kidney specialist] wrote and said, I think you’d better check some of the options that are available to you, just in case all of a sudden you do go down to 10%. Then it’s dialysis. You need to know what options are available

So we got an appointment and we went to see, and he [doctor] mentioned about peritoneal dialysis. And then they did the haemodialysis as well, where they filter the blood. We went for that one.

And I just saw all of those other patients there and the thing is, my Dad is quite a lively person. He gets involved in committees and charities. He’s not one to stay at home. So for three times a week you have to go and you have to sit there for, you know, and I just couldn’t imagine my Dad doing that. And the other one, it was eight hours, nine hours, and you’d have to have peritoneal and they’d put a tube in and filter all the things.

So I just said to him, we came out of the door, and I said to him, If you need a kidney, you can have mine Because I was like, I can’t, you know it’s better to have the kidney, do the transplant, and then you carry on as normal

Had the doctors, had the doctors suggested anything?

No. But they had suggested you could consider being on a transplant list. But then I’d read some data that they’d given me and information and they said an Asian person only has a one in a hundred and twenty five thousand chance of receiving an organ, whereas an English person would have a one in three chance. So I thought well, and the thing is each time his levels, kidney function kept dropping. So I said to him, Well, if you need a kidney, then I’ll donate That’s what happened.

On BBC World Service I heard this incredible story about this man, who was a business man in Philadelphia and flew to New York every so often, fairly frequently I think, to do some business there. And he ended up befriending a man from the Lebanon I think it was, who became his taxi driver. And every time he picked him up and looked after him while he was in New York.

And one time he flew in and somebody else picked him up and he said, Where is Abdul You know, whatever the person’s name was. And the guy said, Oh he’s gone home to Lebanon, he’s not been wel or something. And he found out that he was having kidney failure. And I heard this story that he was a man who had a family, only knew this person as a taxi driver, but donated a kidney to him. And I was completely stopped in my tracks, that someone could be so generous given his circumstances, given the relationship wasn’t that close or it didn’t appear to be that close.

Within a couple of days I heard a second testimony to someone donating a kidney. These two friends, two women friends, and one had given a kidney to the other. And this was lately again after the situation, and they were both out jogging. And again I can’t remember the interview, but it was again very moving. And the thing that struck me was I thought, well, you can actually donate your kidney to somebody outside your family. You can actually, you know.

And I thought to myself, there’s no reason why I couldn’t do it. That was really my thinking. There’s no reason. I’m healthy, I’m not married, I don’t have any kind of concerns. And so I made the decision that I could do it.

So I sent an e-mail to my friend and he sent me something back really beautiful. And he was really, really overwhelmed with the generosity of that offer. And he said, Thank you so much. Regardless that this could ever actually happen, you’ve already said something very powerful to me and I want to say that to you And he said, Okay, well what you need to do now is go and see your doctor

I knew my friend [friend’s name] husband, [name], had polycystic kidney disease and I knew he was going to require a kidney. I also knew, because I’d been a health writer for a long time, I also knew you could live perfectly well with one kidney because I’d written about it previously. But I didn’t know that [my friend] had had some tests and had been, the doctors had discovered she wasn’t a good match for [my friend].

So it started at a party actually where I was chatting to [my friend’s husband] and [my friend]. They were telling me that [my friend] wasn’t a good match and that their three children wouldn’t be suitable because polycystic kidney disease is inherited, so it’s conceivable that one of the kids would have it.

So, basically, we were talking and I said, Well I said really half-jokingly, Oh well you can have one of mine if you like Because I knew that you could live perfectly well with one. And I’m fit and well. But it was really quite a light hearted, off-hand remark to start off with.

But then I did start thinking about it and I thought about it quite seriously, because I thought to myself well, it’s quite a big thing to do. He said, Well I don’t know what to say, Annabel And I don’t think he thought I was serious.

But anyway we got to talking about it a few weeks and a few months later. And I said I was serious. And I talked to my husband, who’s a GP, and asked him what he thought. And he thought that it sounded alright. I mean it’s not something that you have to leap into very precipitately because you know that you’re going to be checked out at huge length anyway. And so that even if you volunteer, or first of all when you volunteer you don’t know whether you’re going to be a good match or not.

I knew you could donate to family or friends. I once had a conversation with other people about it and, without hesitation, I knew that I would donate to somebody if they needed it. So that wasn’t a problem. It wasn’t until a few years later that a friend of mine in America told me that she was about to donate to a stranger. Not quite the same as over here, in that she actually saw his name somewhere as needing a kidney, so she put herself forwards. They did actually meet before and got to know each other then.

I don’t know, I was just so totally bowled over by the whole idea that you could just give your kidney to somebody who needs it, not wait until perhaps a relative needs it who may never need it.

So I did some Googling, and found that it wasn’t legal in this country. So really I put it to the back of my mind. But loads of things kept reminding me. My ears would prick up every time I heard something to do with kidney donation, or it seemed to be everyday I was hearing something which I never heard before.

And then I was off work for quite some time because I suddenly developed cataracts in both eyes. It was almost over a very short period of time, and they laid me off work because of it. And while I was off work, it was advertised, not advertised, it was on television about the first altruistic donation in this country.

And I thought well it can’t be. It’s not legal. I did a quick, another bit of Googling and it was. It had suddenly, without me even knowing, become legal. And I thought, Oh my goodness, and everything seemed to just fit in because before I worried about, what if it becomes legal? What happens about my job? They’ll never give me the time off. And what about this? What about?

There seemed to be something holding me back even though I didn’t know what. It just seemed that everything had fallen into place and now was the time to do it. So, although I can say my heart told me I want to do it, but I knew I had to get my brain working and find out. Okay because you want to do something doesn’t mean to say that it’s the sensible thing to do, or it’s the right thing for you.

So I did some more Googling about the operation, the evaluation tests, as much as I could do. And it was strange because the more I Googled, the more determined I was to do it. Nothing I found put me off at all. But I’ve come across people on dialysis or people who’ve just had transplants, people waiting, and it was just an eye opener.

Well my background really has been trying to see how much I can contribute to reducing suffering in all sorts of ways. And, for some reason or other, I just came to the conclusion that this was the right time to do something. In other words, we’d had two or three year’s experience with altruistic donation. I was absolutely confident that I didn’t need two kidneys, that one was enough.

From talking to the surgeons and reading the literature, I was confident that the chances of anything going wrong were much less than they are of me dying on the motorway driving from where I live into [place name]. In other words, I accept risk. I’m perfectly happy with risk in life. I’ve taken a lot of decisions in places that are extremely risky and there’s no problem for me. So it was no threat. So it seemed to me a very obvious thing to do.

One of the things that precipitated my doing this was reading an article by someone called Andrew Carnegie, who wrote an article on wealth about 100 years ago. For a time he was the richest person in the world. He wrote an article towards the end of his life and he said, The person who dies thus rich, dies disgraced And I realised I wasn’t going to have millions to give away, millions of pounds to give away, but I did have a kidney that I didn’t need. And what was the point in waiting until I died to donate the kidney, because that really means that I didn’t honestly want to donate it anyway. That’s the same with money. So that really stimulated me, having read that brilliant article.

I’m a GP, so I do know about – from a professional point of view – the problems of kidney failure and why kidneys make such a difference.

I’m also aware that living donation made a big difference. I think that is an experience that I learned from talking to patients and also a friend of the family who’s son, who’s a contemporary of mine, had a kidney donated by his father 30 years ago. And he remains really very healthy indeed. So I was aware how dramatic a difference it could make to people’s lives. I’m also aware that I’m healthy and fit and that two kidneys are not strictly necessary.

So, with that kind of information in the background, when I met somebody, again it wasn’t just one incident, it was a set of incidents. It was meeting somebody who explained that getting a kidney had been like winning the lottery from his point of view. He was somebody who’d been on dialysis for a number of years.

Right, was this a patient?

It was a patient, yes. It was somebody I saw in the course of work. In fact he said it was better than winning the lottery because he said even winning the lottery wouldn’t have changed his life as much as that. And I suppose I realised at that point I could, it crystallised things a little bit. It made me realise that I could perhaps donate a kidney myself.