Home life and everyday routines
Heart failure may mean having to lead life at a slower pace than before. Most people noticed that they got fewer things done each day and that they sometimes became breathless and tired when they did too much. Everyday tasks like catching a bus, climbing the stairs, shopping, cooking, cleaning, decorating, having a shower, putting on a car seatbelt and driving could cause some difficulty. Some people accepted their limitations (one woman said it had taken her a year to adjust, but others missed their former physical strength.
She has accepted that she has to pace herself with housework.
Isabella’s attitude to heart failure has been to learn to adapt to her limitations and get on with life.
I didn’t let it affect me.
What do you mean? [Laugh]
I adjusted my life. I don’t know whether I adjusted my life around it or it around my life [laugh] but I thought, ‘Life goes on’.
So I used. When you’re, when all of this was happening if there were things that are found were troublesome to me or affected me, you know, that I wasn’t breathing or very puffed and that then maybe I wouldn’t do that next time. So I adjusted my life accordingly really.
And I find if I can’t do a job one way because of shortage of breath and that I find another way of doing it.
How for example?
Yes for example well you mentioned garden I like gardening. Well if I found I couldn’t dig or whatever I’d find an easier way of doing something or a longer the handle or something, think new ways of doing things. So I would adjust, I adjusted really.
Would you say that to some extent heart failure hasn’t affected your moods and the way you live your life?
No I don’t think so. Yeah. I don’t think it’s made any difference. I don’t think I let it make any difference and I think that’s the difference. It’s there and I can’t do anything about it. Live with it and make the most of it and that’s what I’ve done.
Lifting anything too heavy and stretching made some people breathless, and several had asked friends to help them with decorating and DIY though one woman said she disliked relying on others to do her work for her. Some people living alone had help with their housework; one man said he was surprised to be offered help but was glad of it. Many went shopping with their partner or relied on friends and neighbours to do shopping for them; one woman said she now did far less shopping and so had more money, and another woman who lives alone said some local shopkeepers helped out by delivering her shopping.
He has someone who cleans his house for him.
So I have a woman that comes in every, once a week, who hoovers for me and kind of puts the house into some sort of order, which is very good. And that's the way I live. I do my own washing and ironing, etc but she hoovers up and things so the place doesn't become a complete shambles.
She has a lot of help from friends with her shopping as well as from local Indian shops. (Video...
Before I had someone to do the shopping but now my friends get everything for me. My sister's son gets a few bits and pieces for me, vegetables etc., milk and so on, they'll bring those. They fetch these on one day of every week. Small items, well where I live in [place name], there are one or two of us ladies who have a good group going. They fetch me those things. They say, 'Let us know of whatever you've run out of and we'll bring it for you.' But, you know, some things just go off after they've been there a while. I throw them out and only order small quantities. There are shops very close to us, there are some small Indian shops. I can tell them to bring over things too and they never say no. Just small items, you know. They know that I'm not able to carry them.
Yes. Do you tell them what you want over the phone or do you go to the shop?
I go to the shop, it's really near. It's like going out of here and up the road. It's slightly far but not much. And whenever I do go to those shops I tell them what I need or I'll ask one of the ladies who lives in our place to go and let them know that I need these particular things, and then they'll bring them over. I've also been using the lift as well for a long time and not the stairs. The doctor advised against using the stairs.
Isabella does all her housework and volunteers one day a week in a local charity.
Many people were frustrated by their lack of strength; for instance a retired farmer said that hard work like digging took him twice as long as before, and a woman said she could no longer pick up her grandchildren or play football with them. One man said that because he couldn't do things he had given up trying, which annoyed his wife.
He finds that digging and other kinds of hard work take him twice as long as before.
So, if you describe for me, would be helpful, I think, is if you describe what your daily life was like before you had the problem, and now what you can do. That would be helpful?
I can do half as much as I used to. I can't do hard work now, or heavy work, no. I can do light work, and I could go all day, but I couldn't do hard work, no.
Right. I don't really know the difference between what you mean by hard work and light work, so if you could give me some examples, that would be helpful. What can you do?
I could go and dig a hole. I still can, but it takes twice as long.
Says her heart failure means she can't pick up or play rough games with her grandchildren.
He realizes he must seem lazy but he cannot manage to do many things.
Many people had learned to pace themselves; for instance one man living on his own said that he didn't care how long it took to cook a meal or run himself a bath, and someone else said he tried to conserve his energy and would rather be delayed than run to catch a bus. Others who found that a particular activity put their hearts under strain had stopped doing it and asked their partners or children to help.
His attitude has changed and he no longer worries about the time it takes to do things.
One time, the first time I came out of hospital I came back longing for a shower. Jumped in the shower - oh I want a bath - set the bath, came downstairs. I'd forgotten that the bath was running! Luckily I got upstairs and it was just starting to just, you know that moment when a little more would have come over' And I went, from then I says no and I'm setting the bath, turn it down low. If you go upstairs 5 times because it hasn't set properly, it's better to have it low than to be overboard, isn't it, you know what I mean? Next thing they're going to say, 'He's incapable of living by himself' or whatever. You know so you've got to think, you've got to think a way different, you know what I mean.
He can no longer run to catch a bus nor can he climb the stairs easily.
He relies a great deal on his wife and family to do jobs round the house.
There were mixed feelings about what form daily exercise should take, for instance one woman said she got enough exercise doing housework and climbing the stairs. Someone else said that he preferred to drive to get his newspaper though he had to rest after putting on his seatbelt. Others had had to give up walking as a hobby and missed it a great deal (see 'Sports, hobbies and activities').
Thinks that housework and ironing give her enough exercise.
Angela has kept a diary recording what she does each day and finds it reassuring when comparing how much she is able to do now with what she was able to do two or three months ago.
Has it helped?
It has. It has because I can, you know, and I’m starting now as well to think I should write, you know, like if I’m feeling a bit low or if I’ve had a really good day. You know if it’s been a beautiful day I’ll be, ‘lovely day and did so and so’. But it is that thing of being able to have that, almost that record of turning back a month and being able to remember how I felt a month ago compared to how I feel now. So my improvement is. It’s at a very gradual gradient going up.
Vivienne receives disability benefits and uses her money to buy better quality food instead of paying for home help.
I do. I get top mobility so that’s why I have the car outside, first time in my life I’ve had a new car and they have the money every week, the £51 and I get medium disability of £49 a week with that I could have somebody come in, I dare say to clean for me but I don’t. I keep it because it helps me live better from week to week with regards to food and stuff like that.
Where you working before you were diagnosed?
I took early retirement in 1990 but I worked for 23 years in a Children’s Home for County Hall as a Deputy Matron. I worked in the Children’s Home for 23 years, my Mother worked there for 33 years and my daughter worked there until recently when it was closed down. So [laughs], we put a lot of years in.
I can’t get what is it? Carers allowance because somebody is got to be earning less than £100 in the family or something and they’re either making more than that or me grandchildren can’t because they’re at Uni and things like that. But it’s, it’s still a struggle to, you know, to try and keep on top, I have to rely a lot on the girls.
And my eldest daughter’s aware, you know, of what I’ve got and she helps as much as she can. But you don’t like to keep asking all the time if you need things, well, I don’t like to and I won’t, if I can do it, I’ll do it but you know, with living on me own, there’s a lot of things that I have to have help with.
Yeah. And how, how do you go about sorting that help?
Just asking them. I mean, I’d gotten in the bath one night, I couldn’t get out, you know, [name of daughter] had to help me out and when I get tired, I’ve just got to leave everything and go and lie down. It comes over me more or less straight away. I’ve just got to ask when I need, you know, me floor washing and that, the, the girls will do it. I know I get this £49 a week which I’m so grateful for but it just helps me, you know, getting better, a bit better food or, you know, so and I don’t pay the girls anything. They just do it for me.
Mahendra feels well and says he can work as well as those who are fit.
No, no, not at all. I feel much better and I can do more work than people who are fit. That’s the push.
Ok. So you work 5 days a week and?
Sometimes I have to work 6 days. It depends because I am a security person so I have to work any hours which I get because they tell me sometimes, ‘You have to come Saturdays, Sunday’. I have to work.
Last updated April 2016.