Bereavement due to traumatic death
In this section you can find out about experiences of bereavement due to traumatic death by seeing and hearing people share their personal stories on...
Learning that a friend or relative has been murdered is deeply shocking (see Changing emotions and physical reactions). Some of the people we talked to described what happened after a relative or friend was stabbed with a knife or hit with a blunt instrument by a complete stranger or by someone they hardly knew.
People suggested why it had happened and recalled how they had heard the news. Some had thought that jealously had played a part, but people suggested other reasons too.
Lisa found out that her ex-boyfriend, who was unhoused at the time of his death, had been stabbed by a man who said he had murdered two people because he was “cleaning up the streets”. Two friends of Lisa’s were murdered within 7 months.
Adam’s brother, Lloyd, was murdered by “thugs” who hit him over the head with a wooden sign. They beat him unconscious, broke his jaw and inflicted several other injuries. Adam wanted to cry but he felt that he had to be strong for his parents’ sake, so he choked back his tears. He also had other reactions.
Jayne’s husband, Jonathan, and Dolores’ son, Tom, were both killed by strangers who were already known to be mentally ill.
Some people we talked to said that those who had committed the crimes had been a family member or a friend of the victim.
For example, Alison’s estranged husband had killed two of their children after they had had a violent argument.
Some of the killers were ex-boyfriends or ex-girlfriends. Angela talked about her cousin, who lived in Jamaica and who had been murdered by her boyfriend. She also talked about her friend in the UK whose grandson had stabbed her to death.
In this section you can find out about experiences of bereavement due to traumatic death by seeing and hearing people share their personal stories on...
Hearing that a friend or relative has been murdered is unexpected and deeply shocking. Some people we talked to described what happened after a relative...