I’ve tried bits of CBT, I’ve never been on an official programme but when for example I’ve been in hospital or when I’ve been with the Crisis team, they’ve kind of done bits of CBT with me. I guess DBT is more intense, it comprises of both group and individual therapy and it lasts a lot longer than CBT, it also covers things in more detail, and I think they chose that because it was, the kind of the behaviours and the symptoms that I was showing just kind of best fitted the DBT rather than the CBT.
There’s, I think a major difference is that they emphasise, the emphasis in DBT is also a balance between change and acceptance, whereas sometimes the CBT and they’re kind of the professionals that kind of going on at you to keep changing and adapting, it can be quite invalidating to how you’re feeling, whereas with the DBT it’s kind of accepting that this is the way things are at the moment, but that things can also change.
And what’s your experience with DBT? How do you feel it works for you?
I think it really helped me when I was doing it, when I was on the course of therapy. When I finished and I went to university that was quite a lot of changes that were happening in my life and it made it a lot harder to keep using the skills and things that I had learnt, but certainly whilst I was in therapy, and also for a short time afterwards it did kind of reduce certain harmful behaviours ‘cos you have to keep a diary card, a weekly diary card of your emotions and kind of certain behaviours. And those did kind of reduce and the emotions became more balanced. Yeah.
And I managed to achieve things that, you know even the simple things like sending back your coffee if it’s not what you ordered for, I would never had the kind of the guts to do that before but DBT kind of gave me the ability to be able to ask for things like that.
Is that to do with confidence do you think?
Yeah. It’s also, kind of they teach you how to ask for things and the way to go about asking for things, and it kind of gave me, I kind of thought, well I’ll try this once and see how it goes, so it’s kind of like a little experiment and then when I did it and things didn’t turn out awfully and it wasn’t a disaster, it kind of gave me the confidence to do that again.