Vicky’s menopausal symptoms include hot flushes, sweats, irritability, poor sleep and joint pain. A herbal remedy helped alleviate joint pain, but she has not sought help for other symptoms. At 51 she feels old, tired, less competitive and less ambitious.
Unlike her twin sister (MEN34) who has found the menopause a positive experience, Vicky describes her menopause as troublesome;. A year ago, at age 50, Vicky first experienced pain in her hands and feet’ my heels hurt and walking was painful;. Her doctor recommended she buy a herbal remedy from a health shop – it begins with a g;; – which stopped the pain. At the same time her periods started to become irregular and lighter and she began to get hot flushes and sweats even in winter’ I was very hot and if you felt my forehead, there was sweat, it was wet;.
Alongside this, Vicky has had problems sleeping through the night and has become increasingly irritable like I wanted to find someone to have an argument with;. She has had to control her temper in front of her husband who doesn’t like people who rant unreasonably; and doesn’t understand what menopause is about for women;. She has tried telling him about the menopause so that he better understands her symptoms.
Vicki and her husband run their own business; a takeaway. With menopausal symptoms as well as a hectic work life, she gets tired easily but adopts a pragmatic approach’ sometimes the menopause can make you feel low but you still have to go to work;. Although she consulted her doctor about joint pain, Vicky has not felt it necessary to discuss her other symptoms or to seek treatment. While unpleasant, she accepts the menopause and its symptoms as a fact of life.
For Vicky, the menopause and how women feel about getting older is tied up with attitude and the way you see things;. She believes that while Westerners are very happy and youthful; regardless of age, Chinese people are a bit more conservative, regarding 60 as very old;. She describes herself as very old now;, less competitive, less ambitious and lacking in self-confidence, but believes this has nothing to do with the menopause. Rather, feeling old for Vicky reflects a lifetime of working in the takeaway, unable to integrate into society and learn English. She believes that Chinese people are more likely to put all their troubles on their faces;.
Vicky was interviewed for Healthtalkonline in June 2009.