Ruby is 27. She’s experienced bulimia, depression and other mental health problems since she was about 12. For years, she also had a problem with alcohol. Ruby says the most important thing for her was to speak up until she was listened to, and taken seriously. (White British).
Ruby is 27. Her problems started in school where she was badly bullied. Around the age of 12 Ruby developed bulimia which overtook her life for the next nine years. At worst, she was making herself sick 7 to 8 times a day; Ruby says bulimia was so all-consuming that it became a fulltime jo. Ruby never told anyone about what was going on because she was too scared of being criticised or being seen as weak. At the same time she says she was desperate for somebody to notice how much shit she was i, and to rescue her. She wishes she;d realised then that all she needed to do is open my mouth and say one wor.
Ruby’s bulimia stopped when she discovered alcoho and what she then felt was a grown u way of dealing with her problems. Ruby says she stayed drunk for 5 year in her early 20s until it all came to a head and Ruby attempted suicide. Being admitted to the hospital was the first time ever that she;d talked to a professional about her experiences. First, she wasn’t taken seriously because nobody believed that serious bulimia could;ve gone unnoticed for over a decade. Ruby says she just finally had the guts to blurt it all out. Later on, she attempted suicide again and was then admitted to a psychiatric unit again for 3 months. She was put on anti-depressive and anti-psychotic medication which, once she eventually found the right combination, has been a big help for her.
Ruby has written a book Accidental Recklessness; about her experiences. In the book she take a tongue in cheek approach to her experiences. Ruby says the book covers a lot of deep dark subjects but at the same time, she doesn’t want to take herself too seriously. She wants people to laugh together with her at all the silly things she’s don.
Ruby says she used be completely socially inep. She found it difficult to make friends as she didn’t have a yardstick with which to measure what normal people are lik. She says she’s had to rebuild her life from scratch and now has made really close dear friends.
Now Ruby lives on her own. She does volunteering work for two different charities and she also writes. She says the most important thing for anyone with a mental health problem is to speak up, and to speak loud, until somebody listens to you.