Pronouns: He / Him
Jack started socially transitioning to male as a young adult. He hid his gender dysphoria and feelings for a long time especially when he saw how people reacted to trans people in the community in which he grew up. It was when he moved to a new area that he started to explore his gender identity and address how he had been feeling. The more Jack read about trans identities, the more he could relate to it.
Coming out happened over a period of time. Firstly, to those he felt was safest to come out to, which were trans friends or people he knew would be supportive and he asked them to use different pronouns. He then told his wider group of friends and changed his name on deed poll and then he told his family. His mum took a while to accept his trans identity, but she is now very supportive.
Jack has been referred to the Gender Identity Clinic (GIC) by his GP. He is hoping to have top surgery in the future but is expecting to wait at least five years for it. He decided to go through private gender identity services to access testosterone because the NHS waiting list was so long. Before deciding to take testosterone, Jack researched extensively the pros and cons. His experience has been a positive one and the private gender identity services have been efficient and communicated well with him.
It made a big difference to Jack when health professionals were respectful and used the correct pronouns even though they sometimes made mistakes.
As he has transitioned more medically, he feels less of a need to pass. His biggest priority is to feel happy and comfortable with the way he looks to himself. He thinks early in transition he fell into the trap of thinking he needed to look and act a certain way to be male which he feels is less important as he has gone through his transition.
Jack’s experiences of GP surgeries haven’t always been positive ones. He feels GPs could do more to help their trans patients while they are on the waiting list for gender identity services. He would like GPs to be more willing to take on Shared Care Agreements, to admit if they don’t know about trans healthcare but be respectful, open and willing to learn. Jack would like to see a move towards an informed consent model for trans healthcare.
If Jack’s feeling low because of waiting lists or negative trans media coverage he finds it recharges his mood if he spends time with other trans people which reminds him that he’s not alone. He also has found it beneficial to see a private therapist to talk about issues in a confidential space where he’s not going to be judged.