Why did you decide to bottle-feed rather than breastfeed?

I did with both of my children because, I don’t know, I think probably because of my mum. Probably because she bottle-fed all of us and I think you sort of tend to go for, for what your mum does, basically. If, because, because I do quite a lot of stuff for SureStart now, if I’d have known what I know, if I’d known then what I know now then I probably would have breastfed, but I didn’t, so.

So at no point in the care you were receiving while you were pregnant from – were you seen by midwives while you were pregnant?

Yeah.

And did nobody ever give you, offer you any information about breastfeeding?

No, what they said was, the first interview that you get when you go in when you are, the 12 week, you know the 3 months and you get your first scan and you have all your bloods done and everything like that, that was the only, ever time anyone asked me, was I bottle or breastfeeding? And because I said, “Bottle, she said, “Okay, and that was it. Nobody ever asked me again, did I want to change my mind and breastfeed? Nothing.

If you reflect back now, I mean as you say, knowing what you know now, do you wish that somebody had sort of had a conversation with you and at least offered you the information?

Yeah, I do. I wish somebody had just sat down and given me the facts and the figures, and shown me that it’s, it’s easy. Because it didn’t look easy and no-one ever explained it to me, so I just never did it, but I would now because I know a lot more information about it. I know the benefits of it which I didn’t then, so no, nobody ever, as soon as I said, “I’ll bottle-feed, that was it.

Do you have a sense of why they just left it at that? I mean, do you think it was because they didn’t want to pressure you or because they just were..?

I just think they couldn’t be bothered. If said I would bottle, that was it. If you said you were breast, you’d probably got a lot more support. If I’d, I get the feeling that if I’d have said, “Oh, I’m going to breastfeed, then they’d have given me the in depth information about it, but because I said I was going to bottle, that was the last time anyone ever mentioned it to me. And when I had my children the first thing they did was to come in and put bottles down on the table, so that was it, no-one ever spoke to me about it.

While this was going on, who was looking after you? Who was in the delivery suite with you?

I had 4 different midwives over the, the 2, 2 or 3 days and none of them I knew, not one of them. I’d never met any of them.

How were they?

One lady in particular was an older lady and she was like the first one to look after me. She was a little Irish lady and she kept saying to me, Take the gas and air But I knew from the previous one that I couldn’t take the gas and air because it makes me sick. And she kept putting this thing in my mouth and telling me to suck on it and I kept saying, I can’t because it makes me sick And she just didn’t listen at all so eventually I took the gas and air off her, blew into it and then vomited all over her because she wasn’t listening and I’d told her at least half a dozen times that I couldn’t take it, it would make me sick. I had to show her, so I did.

So you made your point?

Yes.

Okay. So once you’d been sick all over her, I presume then she believed you, that you couldn’t..

Yes, she did. Then she, you know, then, then I think she gave me a pethidine and then I was hooked up to a diamorphine, then I had another pethidine, I was hooked up to another diamorphine.

Was your husband trying to sort of talk to them or get them to do anything?

Yeah, yeah, he was, he kept asking them, you know, what was going on, why was it taking so long, why was I so drugged up? Because I really was a lot of the time drugged up. But he just kept saying that he got no answers, he just really thought that I was going to die, because no-one ever actually explained to him. And it was only when, that, when I, obviously had had him and the paediatrician came out and said to my husband, Oh, you’ve got a boy And he said, Oh, that’s fine, but what about my wife You know, and she went, Oh, shell be fine But that was the first time he knew that I would be okay, after I’d had him, and so for a day and a half he actually didn’t know what was happening to me. So that was quite scary for him, it was, because, as I said to you, theres a lot I can’t remember so it, it doesn’t seem that scary to me. But obviously to him, it definitely was, because, as I say, 2 weeks later he went and booked himself in for the snip. And that was it, no more children.

I went in on the Monday and I had to have a heart trace of the baby, and they said, Oh, can you go up to the delivery suite, please So I went up to the delivery suite and I went up there, I stayed there until 5 oclock in the morning and then they said, Oh, it’s fine, you know, you haven’t started your labour, so well keep you in Sent my husband home at 5 oclock in the morning and then he came to pick me up the next day. And then they told me to come back on the Wednesday for another heart trace; came back on the Wednesday, they sent me back up to delivery and then they then started me off because – which I didn’t know at the time, I only knew when I was 8cms dilated – that the baby had been in distress on the Monday and on the Wednesday. And then when I was 8cms dilated they realised that my daughter was coming out bum first, breech, double breech instead of her head, obviously. The surgeon came in to see me, asked me what size shoe I was, so..

What size shoe?

Shoe, because apparently your shoe size is the size of your pelvis.

Is that true?

Yes. And because I was only size 3, anyone who’s a size 5 and above could bring a breech baby. Anyone who’s below has to have a section and I was a, only a 3, a size 3, so I’ve only got little feet. And I went in, I got, he done like a scan and showed me, you know, that it was bum and everything. But she was breech at 5 months and I did try to tell them quite a few times that she hadn’t turned round but, you know, according to the midwife and everyone else she had, you know, but she didn’t. I went in, I had an epidural, which was fine, because I was sitting talking to my husband while I was getting it done. It was quite strange, it quite surreal, actually, lying there talking to my husband while, you know, obviously they’d cut me open and what have you and then woke up in recovery. I was okay the next day, I wasn’t too bad, but it was, she was, she was great and I was great. We went home 3 days later, the midwife came out to visit us, took the stitches out after so many days and she was perfectly fine.