Mother of a trans son. Ethnicity: White British.

Georgina’s child started presenting as a male at around three years of age. He had a real preference for stereotypically masculine clothes and for anything blue. As he got slightly older and began going to school, her son started asking when he could go to the doctor and get boy bitsGeorgina is concerned that her ex-husband and father of their trans child may stop aspects of his medical transition as he has expressed disapproval in the past. When she expressed these concerns to the medical professionals, they said that they will put the child’s needs first. But, Georgina is unconvinced that this will mean that the medical transition will go ahead smoothly.

Georgina’s child started presenting as a male at around three years of age. He had a real preference for stereotypically masculine clothes and for anything blue. As he got slightly older and began going to school, her son started asking when he could go to the doctor and get boy bits Georgina’s response, at the time, was that he could absolutely get medical help when he had turned eighteen.

In primary school, Georgina’s son wanted to have a short haircut to present more male. She was very reluctant to do this at first and put his hair in lots of pony tails to meet him half way. When her son turned seven, he requested she call him by a boy’s name and asked for it to be changed on the register at school. This was a shock to Georgina as it had not yet registered that her son was trans, despite him presenting as a male for most of his life. She now considers this the day that her son came out as trans because he officially spoke of wanting to present masculine outside of the home. Georgina describes this process as feeling a bit strange in that I’d put my little girl to bed and he’s going to wake up in the morning

Once her son chose his new name, Georgina said she felt a flood of guilt. She explains that he had been telling her for years that he was trans without verbalising it and she had not picked up upon these ques. She thinks this is related to how society does not give enough credit to children for knowing their own minds. She now makes a conscious effort to believe her son and not question his thoughts and opinions.

Soon after, Georgina’s son insisted that he be seen by a doctor. Georgina had not done much research on trans identities so was unsure how this process would work, but she just knew that she had to listen to her son and do her best to support him. She especially felt obliged to support him because she felt like she had not done this so far. The very next day she spoke to his teachers and tried to work out how he could be supported at school. Luckily, she says, the teachers were supportive and immediately called him by his new name.

Once they had booked an appointment with the general practitioner (GP) Georgina says her son took the driver’s seat and discussed most of his experiences directly with the GP. She says, that her son just wanted to tell everybody about his true gender identity.

Georgina is conscious that her ex husband disapproves of her son’s transition and may think that she is putting ideas into their son’s head. Because of these concerns, Georgina has asked health professionals whether her ex-husband could stop aspects of the medical transition that her son might want in the future. The health professionals responded by saying we would always do what’s best for the chil which reassured Georgina. But she also thinks that the health professionals do not want to worsen her son’s relationship with his father so they may stop certain aspects of his transition happening in the future.

Georgina feels health professionals must listen to young people and trust them. She advises parents to get in touch with charities such as Mermaids as soon as possible so that they can have support throughout their child’s transition.

Georgina suggests that a healthcare professional could add a note to the patient records to help avoid confusion.

Magazines and TV programmes were a source of information about gender identity for Georgina.

Georgina was concerned that her ex-partner would be a barrier to future medical interventions for her trans son.

Georgina says her son does not talk to his father about his gender identity.

Seeing her son get a haircut he wanted was a very emotional moment for Georgina.

When Georgina’s son made the decision to present to the world as who he was, she understood a change was about to take place and this felt really strange.

Georgina worried her son’s father would not support the name change by Deed Poll.

Georgina talked about how having a counsellor at school helped her son deal with emotional issues.

Talking about bodily changes in early puberty could be challenging, and Georgina used a tick box exercise to help her son express his wishes.

Georgina’s son found out about hormone blockers from a friend. She explained to him how they work and said that part of the reason they were going to GIDS was to be able to access them, if needed.

Georgina felt nervous about her son’s assessment at the GIDS. She also felt she had no way of communicating with her son’s therapists between the appointments.

Georgina was disappointed with the first appointment at the GIDS, but felt more positive when her son got a new therapist.

Georgina knew that she could contact Mermaids if the GP was non-compliant’ with sending the referral, but she found her son’s GP to be very helpful and willing to educate himself.

Georgina said the GP was helpful and proactive in getting the referral done, despite not having prior experience and needing to do some research.

Georgina talked about her son’s wanting to be called by a boy’s name outside of the home and how she felt that was the day he came out.

Georgina talks about supporting her son’s social transition and how they made a list of all the things that they needed to do when he came out to her.

Georgina spoke about her son coming out to his dad in a letter and how she got an ‘earful’ from her ex-partner when he had read it.