Ari

Gender: Non-Binary

Pronouns: They / Them / Theirs

Ari is non-binary and asexual. They came out as trans at about eighteen or nineteen years old. Ari felt able to explore their gender identity and come out to everybody during university due to being in a more accepting environment. Ari says their main goal on their trans journey is to present androgynously, meaning in a way that most people would not be able to tell instantly if they were male or female.

Ari first learnt about non-binary gender identities on a social media website and through blog posts. This is also the way that Ari found more about asexuality.

Ari says that it took a really long time to figure out where I fell [on the gender identity spectrum] They said that they spent a long time identifying as agender before they realised this label didn’t quite fit. Ari feels like non-binary as an umbrella term fits better for them and that androgyny is the best way they can express that.

Ari grew up in a small village in a conservative area, so the GPs were of a conservative mindset which Ari says was quite difficult. Ari has moved to a different location in a more liberal area and they now describe their GP as being fantastic. This GP has never questioned Ari and always takes them as the expert on their health.

Ari is unsure about taking hormones as they do not want all the effects associated with them. They think the idea of going through puberty again would be exhausting and they do not want to have acne in adulthood. Ari has not been on hormone blockers because they were considered too old at eighteen, but they think hormones would have been useful for them if they were younger.

When asked about how they started making changes to their appearance, Ari said it felt so affirming They said the first time they put a binder on they looked in the mirror and thought oh, this works. This is what I wanted Ari joked that there were a couple of miss steps in their initial transition, but reassures other trans people that there will always be missteps. They say finding my way down the path was just so affirming

Ari says to GPs to get a working knowledge of trans healthcare They tell teachers and parents to research as much as possible so that they can support trans children.

Ari talks about having Hypermobile Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome and how it impacts their transition and healthcare experiences.

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Ari says so many things’ need to be improved. More gender specialists to reduce waiting times and trans healthcare recognised as an individual branch of medicine.

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Ari talks about their experience of mental health and what contributes to their distress.

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Ari says delays to referrals and treatment while struggling with gender dysphoria makes it seem like there’s no possible way out.

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Ari states they don’t want all the effects and obviously you can’t pick and choose’ and that’s holding me back.

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Ari says being fully equipped with all the surgical options that are available to you before you go in is really helpful.

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Ari talks about the key things to be aware of when it comes to transmasculine surgery aftercare.

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Ari talks about coming to university and gaining confidence to celebrate their identity’ with the support of the university.

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Ari talks about the change in guidelines for referral trans people [over 17] to the gender identity services.

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Ari talks about the positive relationship they have with their GP he always takes me as the expert in what’s going on in my own body.

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Ari talks about the excessive cost of private healthcare but why people chose this option.

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Ari talks about buying clothes and getting an understanding about what worked for them.

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Ari shares how they chose a new name through looking at baby name websites.

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Ari found it frustrating’ to be held to a model of transness’ by other people.

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Ari shares the story of how they spilled the beans’ unknowing after being fairly intoxicated one evening.

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