I think mainly, it’s being feminine. There are no clothes, you can’t wear v-necks, too low v-necks, and you can’t wear this and you can’t wear that, because you haven’t got a boob, and either I could have had breast reconstruction but, as neither my husband or my children ever seemed to be bothered about what I looked like, I never bothered to go for it. So that was the end of that really. So I didn’t bother about that but I could have done. But even today I find the clothes a problem, and swimwear, and there’s no point in looking in fashion magazines because none of them are ever going to be any good for you, unless you’ve had reconstruction, and then there’s the scarring, because you’ve been, on my side I can see the scar underneath my arm.

I did, after I had all my treatments, join a breast cancer support group at [local Hospital] and I used to go down there with other ladies, and they used to have, you know, treatment people come, you know, Alexander technique. I can’t remember what the little flower things are, different flowers and reflexology and things like that. So that was good and, as I say, everybody was together. But it was also quite depressing in that some of them didn’t, who went to that group, did die, so it was depressing from, you know, but you can’t just live with survivors all your life, can you, if you see what I mean. You have to meet the ones who don’t survive as well so, yeah, but that, yeah, well, that helped at the time and then I sort of felt I outgrew it really, in a way.

So when did you stop going to that?

I can’t remember how long I went to it, quite a while. I got friendly with a lady and we used to go together. But no, I probably, you know, the children took most of my time really, and the ice skating and things like that, because we were going on cross countries, doing that, so it took up a lot of our time.