I have a very nice group of friends, all of whom delight in taking the piss, and so as a result I remember in the hospital the cards I was getting. And one stands out to this very day and I still have it, and it was just simply entitled on the front, 'Sorry for the loss of your loved one', and so you can see what sort of friends I had.
How did you feel when you got cards like that?
Oh I laughed, but that's me you see.
Did you genuinely laugh?
Absolutely, genuinely laughed.
So it didn't upset you when you say they took the piss?
Not at all, not at all, because that's the way that I cope really. I like to think I've got a pretty good sense of humour and it has seen me through many, many different situations. And this was certainly one that helped, I mean it really did. When I think of the absolute manic cards I had and people just didn't want to take it seriously. I think they were probably trying to jolly me along a bit in case I was going to dip into some sort of depression, but I didn't. And whether it was me or a combination of me and my friends being, you know, upbeat, I really don't know, but it worked.
So you felt the humour was actually helpful?
Definitely, absolutely definitely, I couldn't take it seriously. I mean in later days, you know, when I was in a work situation, perhaps able to say something to a colleague when it was appropriate, I mean I wouldn’t go around saying, "Hello, I've had testicular cancer", but when it came up I would talk about it. And you could see them formulating a question in their minds, and a lot of people don't know how to take it when you say, "Oh yes I've dealt with cancer". And usually the first question was, "Oh where did you have it?" And my glib answer was always, "Brighton", so, and that always broke the ice. So, and that I still use that line today, I know, but it's, you see that's the humour coming through again and that most definitely has helped me and still helps me. So…
Oh that's really good.
Yeah I think so, and I think it's important, and I know, I don't want to trivialize, and I don't want to take it into a different sphere, and I know people deal with things in a different way. Some people might be absolutely horrified that I'm sitting here telling you that I laughed about it, but I truly believe that that actually helped, so I need to tell you that I laughed about it.