Gender: Trans male
Pronouns: He / His / Him
Theo is a trans man. Through his teenage years he found it hard to find information about being trans at school and mostly gathered information from social media sites which helped him to understand his own gender.
His dad didnt take his feelings about gender seriously and said that he wouldn’t believe he was trans until he had an official diagnosis. Met with doubt, he de-transitioned for a while, explored being non-binary and then identified as a trans male. As his own knowledge about being trans developed, he found comments made by his parents misinformed and upsetting. He felt pressure to be trans in a specific way at first and thinks people should not have fixed ideas of what a trans person is but recognise that gender is fluid.
Theo’s support mentor at University provided him with a lot of support and information on gender identity including the local LGBT centre. He was afraid to go to an LGBT group at first as he was unsure of his gender and felt somebody may tell him he was not trans enoug but when he did go, he found lots of information there about gender clinics.
Theo’s first experiences of healthcare professionals relating to trans health weren’t as positive as he hoped they would be except for his GP who was very understanding and knowledgeable and asked him if there was another name he wanted to be called by and which pronouns he used. He was on the waiting list for the gender clinic for two years. Communication from GIC about the timing of his appointments involved a lot of chasing on his behalf or through his GP.
Theo is autistic and found appointments at the GIC challenging when trying to explain things, so for one appointment he asked his friend to go with him who helped him when he found it difficult to explain something.
He has had lots of experiences of being misgendered and people not remembering his pronouns which is upsetting, it’s like being repeatedly, pricked by a pin it’s been particularly difficult when it’s taken place in healthcare settings, when approaching services for help.
He worried about taking HRT and the changes it may bring such as voice changes and potential hair loss. He would like to see gender neutral bathrooms more available as he worries about using male toilets.