When Clarissa gave birth to her fourth child, she had a placental abruption. She had to stay in the hospital afterwards, and her baby was put in an incubator. Clarissa has had generally positive experiences with health and social services. She feels that she has been provided with all the support she needed.
Clarissa was a week overdue when she gave birth to her first child. She remembers that everything was normal throughout her pregnancy. However, when she went into labour, the doctors told her that she had a placental abruption, which means that her placenta separated from the uterus while the baby was still inside. Because of this complication, she had to have a Caesarian delivery. Her baby was placed in an incubator for a month, and Clarissa also stayed in the hospital after giving birth. It was very hard because she felt she had to be strong to look after little man, but she was also physically weak. On the other, during her stay in the hospital, she shared a room with other mothers who she found were nice and friendly. She is in touch with them to this day.
Clarissa doesn’t remember any complications with her previous pregnancies. She was 15 when she first got pregnant. She admits that she didn’t quite understand what a pregnancy would mean for her life, but she didn’t want to get an abortion either. She was in proper rough relationship back then, and she didn’t want to tell her partner at the time that she was pregnant. When he found out about her pregnancy from her father’s ex-wife, things just got worse and worse and worse.
Since then, she’s been in a relationship with the father of her other three children. Currently, Clarissa is pregnant with her fifth child, which is why she is visited by a midwife every week or two. She’s happy with the help she has received so far. She feels that it’s important to follow their advice if she doesn’t want to end up getting hurt. She also appreciates that the midwives she met so far are not all stuck up and that they can have a laugh. She is also visited by a social worker who is helping her find a bigger house. Clarissa doesn’t mind having social services around because she finds their advice helpful. She only had one bad experience with a social worker after she had her first child, but she feels that her current social worker is calm and actually listens.
She also receives much support from her current partner and his family. Her mother passed away when Clarissa was seven, which made her particularly sad when she was pregnant. Clarissa also has a sister and two half-brothers. Her father lives in a different town, and Clarissa only sees him when she needs to.
Clarissa’s advice to other young mothers and women who are thinking about having a baby is: Get married first. And get a bigger house. Because once you have one, you’ll want to have four.