Vicky - Interview 38
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She finds some situations stressful and has found it difficult to find work; employers are generally inflexible and not prepared to understand her. She thinks that people with Asperger syndrome need support to find jobs that suit them.
Vicky finds it difficult to communicate with people.
And living with it is quite hard because there are some things I can do, but there are some things I can’t do. For instance, let’s say if this place blew up, okay I have got my parents, my parents can actually help me out, but if my parents weren’t around, and this place sort of like exploded, say of a gas leak or something, [laughs] this is just an example, my parents would think that I wouldn’t be able to cope with it, because, I mean, yes, okay, I can make phone calls, but it depends again on the situation, whether I would be able to make a phone call and say, “Look I need some help here.” And not, and yes, I possibly could if I had to but do you know what I mean, I have got to have people around that will actually support me in a crisis. And this is just an example. But I know that it wouldn’t happen but you know what I mean [laughs].
What other things do you find difficult would you say?
I find difficult sort of like communication with people. Again it depends on the situation because if I sort of.. like I go down to a pub one night a, well not one night a week, but once a month to meet up with some friends and all the people that I go with have got Asperger's. And fine, okay that is fine. But there are some people in the group that can’t even communicate or won’t even try to communicate with us. And okay, I can communicate, but there are times when they just sort of like, do things, unintentionally if you know what I mean. And it has sort of sometimes hurt people, because I have been hurt by people at that pub group. But I know that they don’t intentionally mean it. But then it would all depend on the situation that I am actually in because I know those people reasonably well I can get on with them, but let’s say if I go into another situation, into a job where I don’t know anyone at the beginning, until I have got to know them, do you know what I mean, until I have got to know them, I will find it very difficult