Luke - Interview 35
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Luke, aged 18, lives with his mother and six brothers and sisters. Asperger syndrome was diagnosed when he was 8 years old. Luke did not like school. He always felt different at school and apart from a small group of friends, tended to be left alone by the other children. The teachers did not understand him and would often make him feel much worse. He left school early and is very involved in photography. He is now setting up an online business to sell his photographs and is thinking about beginning a career in hairdressing.
Luke has written three books; A User Guide to the GF/CF Diet for Autism; Asperger Syndrome and ADHD; Freaks, Geeks and Asperger Syndrome; and Crystalline Lifetime: Fragments of Asperger Syndrome. He wrote the second book because he could find nothing written about the experiences of adolescents with Asperger syndrome. He has a girlfriend and enjoys going out to pubs, going to gigs, playing the guitar, singing and listening to music. He finds that his lack of ability to empathise with other people can be difficult, and his complete focus on things, like taking photographs affect his relationship with his girlfriend. They overcome this by talking things through and being very honest with each other.
Luke thinks it is important to read about Asperger syndrome and to learn ways of managing daily life. It can be challenging to go out and do things, like be in a crowd, but it’s important to try and overcome this because things do get easier with practice.
Luke describes the triad of impairments.
Luke never understood why children played things like cops and robbers.
Luke likes music and going to gigs though coping with the crowds was a challenge at first.
Luke describes how he and his girlfriend work at their relationship.
Difficult, especially at the moment. I have been I have been going out with a girl for a year and three months now, and whenever we have an argument or something it is always to do with that because even though there are good points, like you can focus, you know you focus on things a lot better, things that you enjoy, like more than a normal person would, like a normal person, like somebody else would have a few things they like and they do a little bit of this and little bit of that. But way I could spend a full, you know, like fourteen hours taking a photo and then spend another six hours or so taking a photo and then eight hours getting it right on photoshop. So I think that is a plus side, like you can look at any people, you know any of like the greats in history, like Beethoven, Albert Einstein, Bill Gates and you can see there is obviously plus sides to it.
If you have any sort of fallings out it tends to be because you can be quite focused on something?
And not see her point of view may be. I mean do you manage to sort that out between you?
Yes. We just talk like, we talk a lot, because you have to when you have to be completely honest, like all the time otherwise it’s hard enough to understand at the moment, but like if we didn’t tell each other and stuff and like help sort it out then we wouldn’t have a chance really because there is so many things that just look like you were being selfish or just look like you are not communicating properly, that you really do have to work at it because it does get in the way of relationships. It does. But it is not impossible, but it is definitely something that you have to work at.
Luke describes how things get easier and you find ways to help yourself.
Luke thinks after the first baby steps he found his own ways and strategies and has now stopped...
Do you read about Asperger's?
Luke talks about the things that could have helped him at school.
What could the teachers have done? What do you think, looking back, what would have helped you in school?