Murder or manslaughter with a knife or a blunt instrument

Learning that a friend or relative has been murdered is deeply shocking (see Changing emotions and physical reactions). Some of the people we talked to described what happened after a relative or friend was stabbed with a knife or hit with a blunt instrument by a complete stranger or by someone they hardly knew.

Westley was stabbed by a stranger. He had asked the other man to wait his turn while getting…

Age at interview 57

Gender Male

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David found his son, Simon, bleeding to death on waste ground behind their house. His son had…

Age at interview 55

Gender Male

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People suggested why it had happened and recalled how they had heard the news. Some had thought that jealously had played a part, but people suggested other reasons too.

Terri was on holiday when her son Ben was stabbed to death by a young man who had been…

Age at interview 43

Gender Female

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Michelle had felt strongly that something dreadful had happened to her mother and was horrified…

Age at interview 40

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Lisa found out that her ex-boyfriend, who was unhoused at the time of his death, had been stabbed by a man who said he had murdered two people because he was “cleaning up the streets”. Two friends of Lisa’s were murdered within 7 months.

A newspaper article described two people who had been stabbed. Lisa thought one might be her ex…

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Adam’s brother, Lloyd, was murdered by “thugs” who hit him over the head with a wooden sign. They beat him unconscious, broke his jaw and inflicted several other injuries. Adam wanted to cry but he felt that he had to be strong for his parents’ sake, so he choked back his tears. He also had other reactions.

When Adam heard news about Lloyds death he wanted to cry but almost laughed. He knew laughter…

Age at interview 22

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Jayne’s husband, Jonathan, and Dolores’ son, Tom, were both killed by strangers who were already known to be mentally ill.

Jaynes husband, Jonathan, was waiting for an underground train. He was stabbed by a man who was…

Age at interview 44

Gender Female

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Tom was stabbed 22 times by a young man with schizophrenia. Dolores describes how she heard the…

Age at interview 54

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Some people we talked to said that those who had committed the crimes had been a family member or a friend of the victim.

Marcus’ fiancée, Louise, was stabbed by a man who pretended to offer Marcus work. Initially…

Age at interview 38

Gender Male

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For example, Alison’s estranged husband had killed two of their children after they had had a violent argument.

Some of the killers were ex-boyfriends or ex-girlfriends. Angela talked about her cousin, who lived in Jamaica and who had been murdered by her boyfriend. She also talked about her friend in the UK whose grandson had stabbed her to death.

Angela had recently lost a cousin and a friend through homicide. These two deaths devastated her…

Age at interview 44

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Carole’s son was stabbed by his ex-girlfriend, who was jealous of a new relationship. A police…

Age at interview 59

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Julies sister, Shirley, was stabbed to death in her own home by an ex-boyfriend, who had beaten…

Age at interview 38

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Lindas son, Kevin, was stabbed to death by his sisters ex-boyfriend. Linda heard what had had…

Age at interview 52

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